I am actually of the same persuasion. I have realized that i tend to find things funny that offend others, or find things interesting that offend, or sometimes i just accidentally offend someone, and i don't like to feel like i'm "breaking rules" and stepping over lines that people don't want others to cross... so i drop in on forums to learn, to see when knives i'm interested are being released, or if i see an interesting post, i might send a private message - but i have generally decided to keep to myself. I'm not suggesting that at all, i just happen to not like following rules either, especially when they don't make sense to me, and most forums seem to be thick with them. I used to tip-toe around. but now i just stay away from the mine-fields... Works for me. And i still make some good friends - i'm just more careful what i say and to whom, unfortunately.