Until YOU put a stop to it, you will always be "on the hook" for freebies. If your MIL has been successful for a long time in tapping you for support, SHE is smarter than YOU think! Give the Devil her due!

Well in my opinion, she isn't due anything. I know this sounds cruel, but she probably gives HIM 60 percent of the money she gets from SS as it is.

She's not smarter, we KNOW what she is doing. I Just can't be that mean to Patty. I know it sounds like a cop out, but believe me it IS complicated. Patty wasn't treated all that well as a child OR in her first marriage and it has caused her some problems that are quite difficult to be completely rid of.

So she makes up her loss by tapping YOU! She knows how to play you like a fish!

Yes she does. BUT Patty is rapidly getting tired of it and has made some statements about when he gets this better paying job.

Patty's childhood dilemma should make it even easier.

A life of Guilt and NO self esteem are hard to overcome, even when you know you should.

I seem to remember you discussing this same problem many months ago, along with the "BIL getting a better job paying good money" supposed solution. It isn't going to change until you learn how to say NO!

The other job he applied for fell through. It appears he DOES have this one. He is going through the paperwork and medical aspect now.

Then it is the PERFECT time to put an end to it!

Sorry, my mouse died and I had to do a resurrection ceremony on it.

Yeah. Hopefully. Patty has gotten real mad at them the last couple three weeks.