I run,
a 380 in the summer with hand loaded (hot) 95gr FMJs because even hot hollow points don't penetrate enough.
a 9mm in-between with hand loaded (hot) 124gr JHPs because the extra mass is reassuring if it doesn't expand.
a 45acp when ever I can conceal it with hand loaded (hot) 185gr JHPs because they move faster and hit harder than 230s, but in the winter I switch to hand loaded (hot) 230gr HCRN lead because it wont plug with all the heavy clothing being worn and deform enough to not over penetrate.