If I was in your place , which is not easy....I'd be there for her , help make arrangements , and be her friend. I have someone close to me going through the same thing. She has pushed us away(she doesn't want us to pity her). Her daugther is 12 , and is going to live with her father. Whether we have 1yr , or 100yrs....it's not how much time we have....it's what you DO with the time your given. She , and you may not understand this situation...but God has a plan. Someone may learn , believe , grow , love or prepare for their own mortality...God never said "this life will be easy"....Just have faith in His plan.