I don't know why they think that they're helping by not telling family members what's happening -- you're left in a position of naturally assuming the worst, but hoping you're wrong. Best wishes that your Dad makes it through this OK.

EMF

The best thing you can do for your brother is to be there for him. Listen to him, whatever he has to say, whatever he may feel. He may feel scared. He may feel angry. He may feel guilty. He may feel anything at all. Let him. Hear him, accept what he says, let him feel what he feels. Let him be what he feels himself to be. Feelings are not the same as thoughts, and they don’t obey the same rules as thoughts. So feelings can seem unacceptable to the thinking mind. That doesn’t matter. Don’t let thinking or judging get in the way of hearing whatever he says with compassion.

Say he feels angry at your dad for getting sick. This makes no sense in intellectual terms; it’s nothing your dad did on purpose. Intellect is not the issue. If you respond with intellect and reject what he feels, that feeling will persist and make trouble. If you accept what he feels, that feeling will change, and move on to the next thing he feels. Which may well be something entirely different. He may blame your mom. He may blame the doctors. He may blame himself. He may blame you. He may blame God. He may fall into terror instead.

Do not judge. Simply accept that he is thinking what he is thinking. That is okay. He is feeling what he is feeling. That is okay. Thoughts and feelings are not inherently good or bad. Actions can be good or bad. But these are internal thoughts and feelings. Accept them. Let them be. By doing so you can be there for, and with, your brother.

Prayers from Texas sent.

POOF POOF POOF......


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Hang in there dude. Thoughts and prayers sent.

Smoke sent from across the Pond.
All the Best
JB

I hope all goes well. God bless.

Stay strong EMF. Keep a clear head and do what you can to minimize stress(not just yours).

Hang in there brother, God has a plan for everyone...be strong and have faith. Many prayers and much love sent your way.

Excellent prayer CloaknDagger.

EMF,

We have had a long list of people needing prayers lately. Your Father will be added to the list at once.Too many friends and acquaintances have been plagued by health related issues lately,that's enough. I call a stop to any more health issues and bad karma for people. We can all use a dose of good fortune and happiness to envelope us!It is alright to come to your Dad when he is alone and ask him what's going on. Remind him that you love him and care about him. Perhaps if he confides in you as well you will feel like you have a grip on family matters.Then feel free to offer prayers in his behalf too!

Include yourself in this time of stress and bring to your Father the sunshine and joy you have always brought into his eyes. I am sure he could use some now.
Love has a way of healing loads of issues,we will add our prayers for your Father and for family bonding as well.


Peace.

Smoke sent from here too

Smoke from California