Sometimes the addition of alcohol will not make the ache go away, only make it more bearable.

I went through a similar situation when a schoolmate of mine was killed on the way home by a drunk driver. His wife, who had their 3 month old child with her came here looking to see if there had been any accidents. The Highway Patrol asked me to tell her. Hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I explained to her that he and I were classmates and I think that simple fact somehow or other made it easier to handle for her, that the news wasn't being delivered by a total stranger (to him) but by someone he knew.