None of us Understood either. AND add to that that when we had the funeral dinners for this couple (he passed and then she did 4 months later) that pastor WAS at the church, but REFUSED to come out of his office for the dinner and to associate with anyone.

Later on, when I lost my cool and was VERY unchristian like to him in church he talked to the deacon and told him that he (the pastor) was very hurt that he was not asked to preach the funerals for them. The deacon had explained when they died (both times) that it was his parents wish that a former pastor preach their funerals.