I've only shot one .40, and I HATED the recoil. The plate in my wrist didn't like that snappy little round, and I have no problem tolerating full house .44 mag loads.
Agreed. 40SW recoil is "abrupt". Many people complain about it. 10mm is nothing like it.
45Acp tend to "push".
9mm tend to "muzzle flip".
40SW tend to "snap".
10mm tend to be a combination of 9 and 45. They sort of "push up and back quickly".